Vibrant Romance: Letting Freedom and Intimacy Coexist
What keeps most people from experiencing vibrant romance is the fundamental confusion between control and power.
Control is not the same as power. In fact, the extent to which you feel the need to exert CONTROL over your circumstances…
Is proportionate to the degree to which you feel POWERLESS in the face of those same circumstances.
You feel the need to coerce your environment because you feel coerced BY your environment.
POWER is experienced as the ability to maintain your internal stability INDEPENDENT of your circumstances.
Nowhere is this distinction more clear than in the crucible of relationship.
Most conflict and heartache arises from the friction of controlling each other.
Stripped of the specifics, the naked argument pretty much always boils down to…
“I feel powerless!”
“I feel powerless too!”
Those words are never used but that’s the feeling underneath.
We place our power in the hands of the person closest to us and then blame them for our feelings of powerlessness.
A tragic state, but not without it’s beauty…
A relationship highlights the degree to which we feel disempowered so we can see our way back to freedom.
We don’t have to give our power away.
We can experience our freedom while simultaneously leaning into intimacy.
Using our relationship as a vehicle to flourish as individuals AND as partners.
This is the path to vibrant romance.
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