Pressure is something every human being experiences in one form or another. A theme that is prevalent in self-help and personal growth land is “men NEED pressure and challenges to grow.”
The adjustment that needs to be made to this concept is a micro-adjustment but it’s crucial. Over and over again I’ve encountered men that are stuck in a paradigm where if they are not “crushing life,” “overcoming obstacles,” “creating a business” or “growing themselves” they are not living their purpose.
Most of these men have coaches that are peddling these concepts and pouring fuel on a fire that needs to burn out, not get hotter.
Cultivating a consciousness that can withstand tremendous pressure is imperative to learning to BE a MAN. However cultivating such a consciousness requires a distinctly different relationship to pressure than is being taught by the majority of coaches and mentors.
Men all over the world are being taught to charge headlong into pressure. They’re being fueled by concepts like achievement, improvement, purpose, masculinity, courage, and conquering your fears.
From the perspective of cultivating consciousness, charging headlong into pressure is absolutely no different than tucking your tail and running from pressure. Either way you are perpetuating an illusion of self and taking yourself further away from who you truly are.
It breaks my heart to see so many men in the world not only misunderstanding how to leverage the pressure they experience for growth but when life gives them a break, they go out and seek challenges and pressure in order to feel worthy. Currently men don’t feel like men unless they’re being challenged or are under pressure.
This model of masculinity is thousands of years old and it got us here. By that I mean it doesn’t work. Over and over these men end up creating lives where the circumstances enclose them and eventually there is no escape and they crumble along with whatever they have created.
I know what all you “coaches” and “mentors” are going to say. You’ll say, “breakdowns are breakthroughs, it’s all part of our lifelong journey of healing.” You might also say, “being yourself is easy, just follow your joy” while at the same time saying, “building the life you want takes hard work.”
That’s all fine and good but if that’s what you’re saying you’re still not fully conscious of how pressure works in our lives or of how to leverage it for your own transformation in a powerful, conscious way.
Real growth and true creation happen from a state of grace and flow. Real transformational alchemy happens in stillness under pressure. Pressure is a signal from the universe to STOP everything you’re doing and be STILL. It’s an opportunity for life to squeeze you so that you can see what comes out.
Perhaps the only way for us as humans to experience our deepest emotions and heal our deepest wounds is in STILLNESS under PRESSURE. Pressure is not a call to action, and if you don’t understand that and you’re teaching people otherwise, you’re doing not only them but yourself a disservice.
Consciousness is evolving and we are with it. Doing things the way we used to or the way we always have isn’t going to work. What got us here won’t get us there. Are you ready to let go of everything you’ve learned and know to be at the leading edge of change?